[Un]settle(d)

 “Every situation has two handles.” – Epitectus

pay up sucka

I’ve been thinking a lot about relationships lately/endlessly. (High-fucking-fives to all the over-thinkers!) Aren’t long-term relationships a series of trade-offs, really; trading x for y? Security for happiness? Freedom for offspring? A lifestyle upgrade for a clean house and all the sex you want? Fill in your own blanks. No judgement.

At some point, we agree to settle for the another person. (Well, or not. But that’s for another time, friends.) It’s been my experience in conversation that people generally don’t like that term; no one likes to think they “settled”. Maybe why you’ve never heard of this dating site. (Though it might also be that font.) Dan Savage puts it so much better than I can here. How about those lie-selves? Do you think there’s a certain amount of generous pretending in all relationships?

And then there’s Esther. Perel. And the kinder, gentler argument of “compromise” (and the accent helps to, yes?) That’s nicer to take…

in the neck
Perel did a listener Q&A sesh on The Tim Ferriss Show and man, did she shed some light on why online dating doesn’t typically work. Not just because people hate your branding! Ha! Take notes around 23:30… Well, I did. And throw away your lists. I really like how she talks about letting the story develop and unfold, and letting go of expectation.

I’m not sure what my point is here, other than to trade a little of your time for a couple good reads and a quiz – What’s Your Love Style?

I got romantic. Twice. Anyone else keep taking those things ’til you get what you want? No, me neither. But really, what’s your style? If you could pick one of the types, which one would you have selected? Why? Do you appreciate one over another?


17 Oct | Tu
Warm-up | 3x
Row x 1:00
Cossacks x 10 ea (only 2x thru)
Slam balls x 7 @ 20#

Work | New favorite
A. 5x: [BB only]
RDL x 5
Row x 5
Press x 5
Good morning x 5
Back squat x 5
Rest as req’d
B. Back squat 5 x 5 [across] [4:00] (140, 4 @145#)
C1. Zercher reverse lunges 3 x 5 10 ea [1:00] (85, 75, 75#)
C2. Zercher lunges x 5 ea [1:00]
D. SL KB RDL 3 x 10 ea [1:00 btwn legs] (45, 50, 50#)
E. (Cable) face pulls 3 x 15 [1:00] (30, 40, 40#)

18 Oct | W
Mobility | 3x
GA squat x 10
Scap press x 10
Popes x 12 ea
Reverse curl-ups x 10

Work |
A. Bike x 20:00
B. Row x 10:00
C. 4x:
Lateral step-ups x 5 ea
SA KB FR carry x 20 m ea (40, 4@ 45#)
HS holds x :30
Cossack lunges x 10 ea
D. Stepmill x 15:00

20 Oct | Th
Mobility | 2x
Wall rotations + press x 10 ea
Banded clammies x 10 ea

Warm-up | 2x:
Bike x 2:00
KB RDL x 8 ea
DUs x 20

Work |
A1. GHR 3 x 10
A2. DB rev fly x 10 (10#)
A3. DL x 5, press x 5, good mornings x 10 (75#)
B. DL 5 x 3 [3:00] (185, 3@ 195, 200#)
C. Snatch-grip pause DLs [3s mid-thigh, ATK, mid-shin] 3 x 4 (85, 2@ 90#)
D1. [Cable] pallof x 15 ea [1:00] (20#)
D2. Push-ups x AMRAP -1 [1:00] (10, 10, 10)

Stretch | 10:00

21 Oct | Sa
Mobility | 3x
SL elev hip bridge x 12 ea
Prone Y raise x 12
Elbow plank w/ fwd tap x 10 ea
Shoulder CARs x 3 ea

Work |
A. Bike x 15:00
B. 5x:
Sled push x 30m (+135#)
DB snatch x 3 ea (35#)
Lateral box step-ups x 5 ea
C. Alternating TGUs x 12:00 (40, 45, 50, BU: 25, 30#)
D. Stepmill x 15:00

Stretch | 10:00

22 Oct | Su
Work |
A1. Jump rope 4 x :30 (DUs)
A2. RNT rev lunge x 10 ea
A3. FS x 10 [BB only]
B. BS 5 x 5 @ 22×1 [3:00] (115, 120, 125, 130, 130#)
C1. 1-1/4 front squats 3 x 5 [1:00] (105, 95, 95#)
C2. DB row x 10 ea [1:00]
D1. Cable tri’s 3 x 15 [1:00] (40#)
D2. DB curls x 10 [1:00] (15, 17.5, 17.5#)

Stretch | On grass


Tu | The squats were hard, but I think I could have done them at 150#. The stupid globo racks didn’t allow for the regular zerchers, so I make them all reverse. Can’t stop me with your silly globo racks! Dug the RDLs and really felt the face pulls.

W | So. Much. Soreness. In da booty and ham(mies). Front rack carries are friggin’ awesome – really felt those in the abs and braced breathing efforts. Killed the handstand holds. Hmm… all this back work perhaps?

Th | The soreness continues. DLs felt good. I was surprised at how two hunnit felt from the ground. That’s usually the hardest part. Probably sandbagged those some – same with D2, the push-ups. Why…? The snatch grip DLs were hard being under tension for that long. I like using straps. Been noticing people with the globo editions of those; I’ll keep the Grizzlies.

Sa | Oh man, that round “B” was something. Things felt good. Making freeeinds.

Su | An over-planned weekend left me short on the clock with the Sunday hours at Globo Mountain. After an express foam roam and mobility sesh, I turned part “A” into a warm-up with DUs instead of regular yumps. Fire up dat CNS. Check. Why was I so conservative on those back squats to start!?! Next time, start those bishes at 130, Morgan. They felt solid. All the squats there was a new awareness of bracing in my trunk – feeling my abs engage. Not sure if I was just sore so felt it more or what. The front squats were rough but likely made more so because I totally missed that there was a part C2 there. This is what happens when we hurry…

“Hurrying and delaying are alike ways of trying to resist the present.” -Alan Watts

 

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